To briefly summarize, in previous steps we: admitted we were powerless over (fill in the blank); decided to turn our life over to God; made a fearless moral inventory; admitted the nature of our wrongs; asked God to remove defects of character and made amends to all we have harmed.
So we kind of have a clean slate here. Lets not let it pile up again!
The AA 12 & 12 tells us, “A continuous look at our assets and liabilities, and a real desire to learn and grow by this means, are necessities for us……….More experienced people, of course, in all times and places have practiced unsparing self-survey and criticism. For the wise have always known that no one can make much of his life until self-searching becomes a regular habit, until he is able to admit and accept what he finds, and until he patiently and persistently tries to correct what is wrong.”
Now we will take what we have learned in the previous nine steps with us into our new way of life. Steps 10, 11 & 12 are often referred to as Maintenance Steps. They helps us to continue in our new way of life following the principles of Christ and seeking his will in our lives.
Some people take daily, weekly or monthly inventories. We need to do them rather frequently so we don’t forget things. But more importantly, if we have mistreated someone we need to make our amends swiftly so hard feelings don’t grow and fester. If we wait too long no matter how sincere our amends is it may not be accepted.
If we have taken a negative action toward another person making a sincere amends and admitting as quickly as possible can be just as important in a relationship as saying, “I love you”. Of course, we must keep in mind that we can’t keep acting in that same way requiring frequent amends or the other person will stop believing our sincerity. Then we have lost trust and we will be back at square one.
But, because we “continue to take personal inventory and when we are wrong we promptly admit it” this won’t happen